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Holding my Happiness

No ‘thing’ (nothing) makes me happy for long. I am real ‘unhappy human soul’. Isn’t something to boast about nor Am I proud but it is real. Well it isn’t just my story but a toll number of people I speak about. Each one of us runs after happiness all his/her life but seldom lets it stay for long. All our life, we are preoccupied with our efforts to keep ourselves happy, but we seldom embrace it heartily when it comes real close. Basically happiness is a state of mind and no one other than us can make it happen except us but we let it fly off even when it comes calling on its own. You may not approve it instantly but will agree with me soon.

We humans have become so accustomed to the stressed life that we have actually forgotten the feeling of being happy. Let me quote generally from my daily routine- Most of the day and some part of the night I am mostly engrossed in thinking  and trying for my needs and wants. If it was just about needs, I would have been happy but my wants have surpassed all my needs exponentially. And this culprit has made me a real unhappy soul. I have a numerous wishes and dreams to be fulfilled and I am often thinking about them. My happiness depends on my self imposed conditions and then I complain why happiness doesn’t come to me. How far is it justified?

Do you really let yourself ‘be happy, feel happy’? A friend posed this question to me on one of those days when I had actually achieved a dream of mine. I was happy but as an ‘unhappy human soul’, I was busy bothering my happy thoughts with the irrelevant anxiety and foreseen troubles. I should have been purely happy but now when I had achieved it, I was thinking of other troubles and other aspects of it. He blatantly pointed out that I was trying to mar the real happiness of mine and enjoyed being ‘unhappy soul’ and I knew he was right. (I am expert at it.)

I thought and introspected -The day is so fine and lovely, by grace of God, I have achieved my one of the many dreams as well but instead of feeling and being happy for the moment, I was more interested in being unhappy by inviting the negative thoughts. Why? Also I had 5 more things to be achieved on my wish list sooner than I had achieved one- greedy me. Hence again, the happiness was flung far off from my reach, this is what I feel but its not so, happiness never goes away from us, we tend to drive it away from us. In fact it was very close but I never savored it, neither enjoyed it because I was worried for the other things rather than it. This is me. Poor me!

The message is ‘Let’s hold happiness for long’.

12 thoughts on “Holding my Happiness

  1. Unfortunately its the same situation with many of us.We tend to run after bigger things disgarding the small moments of happiness.
    By the time we achieve those BIG things they become small for us 🙁
    But the real happiness lies living in PRESENT and enjoying it to the fullest

  2. So,finally here comes the real juicy topic. Though many may find it boring stuff to keep drooling same art-of-living topics but this is the talk of every metro now-a-days…and so should it be.
    In context of professionals,I try to map their thoughts quite often & I find the same pattern in each case.Since the time India started riding over the IT boom, past two decades have seen youngsters craving for MORE of it all.Most of us around have taken the MIRAGE far too seriously! But the best part is that more n more of us are beginning to see beyond it atleast now…
    And,how can I miss to mention, whoever frnd said those golden words to you must have really known you well 😉 Choosing wise friends means the job is half done…
    Hoping to see more of such stuff here…

  3. i agree wid ravsworld n u knw that is y it is “PRESENT”(gift), one shud try to njy whtevr is thr wid u, n rest will alwayz follow….n fr all thz ppl who r like ths(read not happy), plz cm n join Shri Shri 1009 Manik ji maharaj Manila wale to attain tat lost happines whch u r unable to find….entry is free, joining requirement is u shud be a gud cuk bcz maharaj likes gud food……hurry only few seats left…….

  4. @ravsworld
    yaa the real happiness is to just not bother about future and just hold on to the present moments of happiness….i have been missing on these for long and I know what I have missed…

  5. @DpS
    Thanks for writing down some gud thoughts here…
    Infact its not just IT boom or the tolling job pressure on us but our never ending greed and enlarging wishlist that doesn’t let us be happy. Its high time we gear up and keep our happiness intact…
    Lets just hold it.
    And as far as friends r concerned, i am lucky. 🙂

  6. So finally, somebody get to know the reason behind her unhappiness.
    but i have a doubt here, if these dreams (what you call greediness) won’t be there do we really live a life!
    I am skeptical and still searching the reason..

  7. @kuku
    Dreams make the life I agree , but we have given up our pleasures, joys n happiness running after these dreams.This is greediness and its wiping out our emotions and hence I believe that holding our happy moments is important.

  8. ur blog is simply wow….
    i was listening one of mine fav song n then reading ur’s blog…
    these 2-3 min made me remember my life’s hard fact that i have everything to live a good n contented life bt still i m nt happy all the time….this thought n geting relieved from this had come across my mind several times bt all invain…
    i agree with kuku that dreams shd be there in our life else hw shall we feel happiness or sadness..
    simple funda is choose a dream, achieve it, n then have party…
    (ya its jst a funda)..
    bt i mst say the last pic of that sweetest gal is amazing…
    i realised a lil curve on my face after seeing her,its jst full of life…
    laughing with arms open, eyes open, mouth open as if saying that everything come to me….
    is pic ko roz dekho n smile…..

  9. @Divya
    thanks for mentioning the wow factor…he he
    I m happy that u relate to my posts so often.
    dreams are der to be achieved but as an when we get them in our holds, its value should be realized and happiness should be celebrated. But we often get so busy with our other issues that the moments of happiness are lost rather than holding them tight…
    njoy the pic…just be wise 🙂

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